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Sex News: That’s Disgusting! Not If You’re Horny…

Sex News: A new study suggests women feel less disgusted when they’re sexually aroused.

A new study suggests that when girls get horny

I talk about the study and its implications – after all I wouldn’t be in business if disgust wasn’t intertwined with sexual arousal, at least for some people. I also discuss the challenges of doing sex research and some limitations of this study and others like it. Researching sex is harder than it looks (pun somewhat intended)!

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What do you think? Is it easier to talk about dirty fantasies when you and your partner are horny? When you’re aroused are you more down to get nasty?

Edited: October 15th, 2012

Finally, Its (Kind of) Okay to Be a Slut

In high school, I once spent a week at an artsy charter school. I fully transferred, then changed my mind and went back to my neighborhood school. Somehow in a week a rumor went around a few cliques that I left school because I was pregnant (like a Jewish virgin Mary). When I came back, there was some strange confrontation in the girl’s bathroom where a more “popular” girl called me a slut. I think I cried.

Things change…sort of.

The sexual double standard has existed a long time, where guys are players (good) but girls are sluts (bad). But apparently the double standard is dead among college students:

nearly half of the participants judged men and women by the same standards, and claimed to lose respect for either promiscuous men or women

Yay, everyone hates man whores as much as slutty girls!

Should we be happy men and women are judged by the same standards? Or sad we’re all judging one another equally? Because really, why does it matter what someone else does in their sex life (or any other part of their life, for that matter)?

What do you think?

Edited: September 10th, 2012

If porn is replacing sex education…

…let’s give them some good porn to watch.

Now, a study of 140 students in the UK is not necessarily representative of all youth at large, but the researchers make a fabulous point: most sex ed is focused on what kids SHOULDN’T DO, such as…

And kids, like everyone else, are curious about sex. Teenagers have adult bodies yet we treat them like children.

Should teens watch porn? Well, its not legal, and its not my place to say. The bottom line is they’re doing it, and since it takes place in private it would be hard to stop even if you wanted to.

Adult entertainment is a billion-dollar industry, and its not going anywhere, even if you hate it. Sorry. On the other hand, the majority of the adult industry believes their products aren’t educational. Well, when we don’t have anywhere else to learn about sex, porn serves that purpose whether or not its made with that intent.

That’s why I do what I do. Rather than denigrate an entire LEGITIMATE industry, let’s create porn that DOES educate, that DOES show how men, women, and everyone else gets off. Let’s give the public a REAL look at human sexual expression in all its creativity and diversity. Let’s show people how to explore their and their partners’ bodies, and how to communicate with each other to deepen intimacy. Let’s give viewers permission to play, so they can share that one-of-a-kind mental-physical-emotional-spiritual connection both with themselves and in their relationships.

As Susie Bright says in Full Exposure: Opening Up to Sexual Creativity and Erotic Expression, If you don’t like what you see out your own window, the most subversive and substantive thing you can do is to make your own vision.

Edited: December 23rd, 2011