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Your Sexual Preference Is Not Normal… And That’s a Good Thing

Guiding a person to realizing a healthier sense of sexuality comes down to helping one feel good about being sexually unique. It involves diffusing people’s worries about something potentially being wrong with them. It is grounded in challenging one’s ideas of what society views as normal versus abnormal, especially since these views are always changing.

“Abnormal” and “normal” are dirty words when it comes to sexuality, given the judgment they invite. They also tend to make our concepts and understandings around sexual matters very black and white instead of allowing us to embrace all of the shades of gray. The end result: people come away distressed, feeling like their sexual wants, behaviors and desires are freaky, bizarre, disturbing, and weird.

When it comes to realizing your full sexual potential and maximizing your pleasuring, the focus cannot and should not focus on being the “average” Joe—on being a supposed “normal.” Being in a sexually healthy place needs to involve exploring one’s sexual attitudes, values and behaviors, recognizing that one’s sexuality is highly individual and that every sex life is wonderfully unique.

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Edited: September 29th, 2013

Female Domination: My Experience

For my 100th episode, I talk about my experience getting into my more dominant side, and how you can help your girlfriend get into hers.

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Edited: September 23rd, 2013

Are Guys Into Fetishes Pathetic?

I got this interesting question in my email…

I was wondering if you think guys who are into fart fetish are worthy or if you think they’re pathetic? Like it’s a pretty degrading act but its sexy I don’t know why i love it.

Here’s my basic answer: its not WHAT you’re into, but HOW you handle it. A guy into totally “normal” sex can be pathetic. A guy into crazy fetishes can be cool. And vice versa.

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Edited: September 19th, 2013

How to Have Anal Sex – Pain From Anal Yeast Infection

Knowing how to have anal sex that feels great means dealing with challenges that come up… like anal yeast infections.

They’re not fun in general. And they make me, who LOVES anal sex, want to run away screaming.

If she has one, she will too.

Listen to how I’ve dealt with anal yeast infections quickly & easily so I could get back to ENJOYING my booty.

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Edited: September 17th, 2013

The Surprising Thing That Will Ruin Your Sex Life

Good food, good sex. Bad food, bad sex.

The average American diet is actually a killer of good sex. To fully enjoy the natural delights of good sex, the human body must have the following:

1. A desire for sex

2. Adequate blood flow to the genitals

3. The endurance/stamina to get the job done

It turns out that the desire for sex, maintaining adequate blood flow to the genitals, and physical endurance are all chemically driven processes that are largely determined by the food you eat…

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Edited: September 16th, 2013

Porn to Share With Your Girlfriend

I got this one in my email:

I want to ask for a recommendation for some porn to share with my fiancée. We have not tended to watch the same things, with her interested in plot and romance me focusing on women having sex with each other and fetish play like peeing and farting. Is there a good compromise of which you can think?

I’m not huge on romance porn… but I can give some recommendations for both softer and more dirty porn that she may find enjoyable.

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Edited: September 13th, 2013

How to Have Anal Sex: Pain From Anal Fissures, Ouchie!

One of the biggest complaints women have about how to have anal sex is pain.

Even the best technique won’t help if she’s got an anal fissure, a (hopefully) small tear in her rectum or on her butthole.

Anyone can get one, so if she’s complaining of pain – it could be this. Tune in and find out how she can heal her bootypain and make anal sex fun & enjoyable.

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Edited: September 11th, 2013

Flushing My Head in the Toilet Fetish

Even after 4.5 years in fetish porn, I still learn of new fetishes & fantasies every day:

Hello, I was just wondering, I have a strange fetish where I love to have my head shoved in the toilet and flushed by a girl or girls. Do you know anyone else with something like this or similar?

No, I do not. But whatever floats your boat… or your head. Listen to hear my take on this unique sexual fantasy.

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Edited: September 6th, 2013

I Have a Premature Ejaculation Fetish & My Girlfriend Doesn’t Like It

Premature ejaculation is an embarrassment for some, but others turn it into a premature ejaculation fetish


Question via Tumblr:
Long time fan of yours! You made a premature ejaculation humiliation vid a few years ago that is one of my all time favorites. Really incredible. I have a question related to that: basically how i can balance my P.E. kink tendencies with good sex. My previous ex LOVED to tease me, and play with my stamina and enjoyed the power of that, but my current gf isn’t really into it. Is this a question I should send to you education page? Or is it best to book a skype session? Thanks & keep it up!

Every sexual relationship is a unique combination of each partner’s desires, preferences, beliefs about sexuality, experience and chemistry. Its not fair to compare your current partner to your past one(s) – remember, there’s a reason you’re not with that person anymore!

She may be uncomfortable having power in the bedroom. She may not really understand what it is you want. Or perhaps she’s uncomfortable exploring sex outside of what’s ‘typical.’ Without knowing more about her and your relationship, its hard to say. Some of these issues can be overcome, others may not – just like any other ‘differences’ in your relationship. I’ve heard of couples breaking up because they are diehard fans of opposing sports teams. Others find a way to make it work, even if their preferences and desires are sometimes different.

Its also not clear to me whether you always prematurely ejaculate, or if it only happens sometimes, or whether you’re into the fantasy/humiliation aspect of it. If its a common occurrence, you can teach yourself to last longer – if you want. You don’t have to, of course, any more than she has to enjoy your premature ejaculation. But if it IS something she’s not crazy about, if you make an effort to last longer for her – perhaps she’ll be more interested in exploring your desires.

The only way you can really know about it is to talk to her yourself. I’m happy to chat if you want some more specific help.

Edited: September 2nd, 2013