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Butts: Clean or Dirty?

Question via Tumblr: Do you lady’s clean your ass holes first? I became disappointed to find out most pornography in the “ass cleaning” business actually clean the ass before having it “cleaned” how do you and the people you work with do it? Ps. I prefer a kinda dirty b-hole ;)

Imagine having near strangers all up in your genitals and a high definition camera zoomed in so close your pores are visible, knowing thousands if not millions may see it. Seriously, imagine that for a minute. That’s why (most) porn stars are a bit obsessive about cleanliness in that area. They’re generally trying to avoid embarrassment, being seen/experienced as smelling/tasting bad and (with anal) dealing with a mess. It can be awkward, and I’ve heard of (some) guys in boy-girl anal scenes getting all grossed out and judge-y. That doesn’t make a girl feel sexy and then makes the scene less hot. Plus to be freshly shaved and have nice looking hair, that usually requires a shower first, even for those of us who aren’t so concerned.

I personally prefer a person’s natural smells and tastes. As if they went to work all day and came home and that’s just how they are. Or (if I’m REALLY attracted to them) if they went to the gym and skipped a shower after.

For our sites like, we let the girls do whatever they want. They’re the ones with their mouths all up in there. Some do nothing, others baby wipe their buttholes. Occasionally a girl is so worried she even does an enema just to have her ass licked. That’s rare, but it has happened.

For my site, I usually tell the girls that I’d rather they didn’t clean so much but to do whatever makes them comfortable. When I say that, some girls are like, “Oh, okay cool” and others still prefer to baby wipe. If they DO baby wipe, I have them at least rinse it off with water after because I’d rather taste nothing than the flavor of cleaning chemicals. As a courtesy, if a girl wipes her ass I’ll usually do mine too, just to make her comfortable. Its more important to me that a girl feel comfortable “letting go” and being (socially) dirty than the physicality of it, because you can’t see a taste or smell. But you CAN see if she’s worried or grossed out and it makes for a less sexy scene.

When I’m shooting with Terry, I do nothing at all. I am how I am. But that’s how we both prefer it anyway. When we shot his anal DVD, we told them not to do enemas unless it was a REALLY big deal to them. One of of four did. A couple were a bit anxious about it, but we said if it became an issue we’d stop and clean up and it wasn’t a big deal to us. And that made them feel better.

Moral of the story is, if you want a girl to be dirtier (whether physically or socially – doing things seen as “dirty”), she’s gotta feel like she’s not going to be looked at differently because of it.

But just like some people have super clean houses (I’m NOT one of those), some of them are just going to prefer being clean.

Edited: May 19th, 2014

Is It Safe to Lick My Girlfriend’s Ass?

Question via Tumblr: You’ve more than likely answered questions about this before, but any advice for practicing safe analingus? Me and my girlfriend are very concerned about me getting sick from licking her butt. After some reading I did earlier I’m worried about getting her sick from like moving from her ass to vagina (I read that can lead to a nasty infection). I really want to eat out her butthole but it really doesn’t seem like it’s worth the risk!

Dirtiness is people’s primary fear about the butt.  Everyone has their own limits for the area.  Some will only lick the area after a shower – but on the flip side, I get emails from guys who want to lick a girl’s ass right after she goes #2 (termed “human toilet paper”).  

It is absolutely possible to have safe butt play and stay healthy.  If you’re really wary of it, she could do an enema to clean out her insides, then take a shower to clean the surface before you lick.  But unless that’s what you both need to be comfortable, its really not necessary.  I’ve had my ass licked more times than I could count in the last 5.5 years with my husband, and with him I never do any preparation.  He’s never gotten sick from that.  And I’ve never gotten sick from ass to mouth (sucking his dick after its been in my butt).  As a courtesy, I clean my butt before doing it on film with another girl – I don’t really care, but she often does.  

While poop is definitely not sanitary, its not going to kill you either.  We come into contact with fecal matter all the time – studies find its all over hotel rooms and not uncommon on cash and credit cards.  That’s why I try to be careful & avoid touching anything the public uses (like the credit card swipe machine, gas pumps, etc.).  There are even people with a “human toilet” fetish, who either pay dominatrixes or have really open minded wives & girlfriends who go to the bathroom in their mouth.  Some even eat it and live to tell.  I research fetishes online a lot, and have come across several forums where guys and dominatrixes discuss this practice.  I don’t know enough to conclude that’s safe – but clearly the trace amount you may find on her won’t cause any major issues.

The major risk of going from ass to pussy is for penetration.  You don’t want to bring bacteria from inside the ass to inside the vagina, because it can cause a yeast infection or urinary tract infection.  That’s not the end of the world either though, if you ever do, she should pee (to clear out the urinary tract) and douche w/1 cup water + 1 tbsp hydrogen peroxide after (and 1-2 days after to be safe, to clear out the vagina).  As far as licking, even if your tongue were going as far up her ass as possible, and as far up her pussy as possible – you’re not going to pick up THAT much bacteria that its a problem.  If you’re only licking the surface of each (no tongue penetration), that’s even less likely.  Terry always goes back and forth between licking my pussy and ass, and neither of us have had issues directly from that.  I’m pretty sensitive to yeast infections, so if it caused a problem I definitely would know.  Of course every body is different, so if she ever comes down with an infection after – just adjust to be more squeaky clean in the future.

So, happy licking!  

Edited: November 13th, 2013

How to Have Anal Sex Tip: Pay Attention to Physical Hygiene

Usually when you hear about how to have anal sex and hygiene, you’d assume we’re talking about poo.

But there are other important ways to stay clean:

Make sure that your partner has clean and cut fingernails before starting to explore, in order to avoid scratching or passing bacteria. You can then move on to exploring with sex toys, or move on to… anal sex with your partner.

True of any sex, but especially important for butt sex – the anal canal is made of delicate tissue that can tear much easier than the pussy. Tears are not only painful, but can make it easier to pass STDs.

Edited: March 8th, 2012